I’ve shared these resources and videos before, as part of various other posts and lists, but I thought it might be useful to have a “landing page” for all this—both my own videos about masculinity, and some of favorite links that I use in my facilitation/education work.

Potential Starting Points

• Relinquishing the Patriarchy (adrienne maree brown)
• Equimundo’s “State of American Men 2025”
  • And a related resource from 2017: The Man Box: A Study on Being a Young Man in the US, UK, and Mexico
• A Call to Men (Tony Porter’s famous TED Talk)
• ‘Boys & Sex’ Reveals That Young Men Feel ‘Cut Off From Their Hearts’ (text and audio interview with Peggy Orenstein) + The Miseducation of the American Boy
• A Call To Men- Breaking Out of the “Man Box” and Creating a Culture of Change (text and audio interview with Ted Bunch of A Call to Men)
• Against Me(n) (Eric Mata)
• Trump’s Win Doesn’t Mean We Need to Focus on the Manosphere and Catering to Young Men (Lex McMenamin)
• And two resources of my own:
  • How Much Profit is in Your Pain? On Masculinity and Outrage
  • “What’s Good, Man?” (a nine-episode podcast on men, masculinity, and culture)

More Readings, Videos, and Resources

• On masculinity and violence:
  • Dear Men: It’s You, Too (Roxane Gay)
  • Violence Against Women—It’s a Men’s Issue (Jackson Katz)
  • Don’t Blame Mental Illness for Mass Shootings; Blame Men (Laura Kiesel)
  • Men Are Responsible for Mass Shootings: How toxic masculinity is killing us (Jennifer Wright)
  • Who Are The Majority Of Mass Shooters In The U.S.? (AJ+)
• On masculinity and the pandemic:
  • Masculinities and COVID-19: Making the Connections report from Equimundo
  • How performative masculinity has played a role in the COVID-19 pandemic: Orna Herr
  • Gender, Masculinity, and COVID-19: Christina Ewig
• On accountability, apology, and transformative justice
  • Mia Mingus’ “How to Give a Good Apology” and “Dreaming Accountability”
  • Barnard Center for Research on Women’s “Building Accountable Communities Project”
  • How To Survive The End of The World episodes on Transformative Justice (1 and 2)
  • Transform Harm is a resource I’ve been referring people to a lot lately in the context of prisons/police abolition. But that site is also an absolutely vital resource for this conversation too, which shows how connected these two issues are. For example, check out “Taking the First Step: Suggestions for People Called Out for Abusive Behavior” (many other great links there too).
• On gender more broadly
  • Trans 101 (Advocates for Trans Equality)
  • GLAAD’s media reference guide is meant to be a tool for journalists, but may be useful for people looking for basic, intro-level information on issues like nonbinary identities, trans 101 content, etc.
  • 12 Things People Get Wrong About Being Nonbinary (Suzannah Weiss)
  • 5 Misconceptions About Sex and Gender (Teen Vogue)

Next Steps: Resources for Educators + Facilitators

• MCSR’s Healthy Masculinity Action Project
• Live Respect: Gender and racial equity curriculum for middle and high school boys
• Lesson plans and activities on “Teaching and Learning About Masculinity in an Age of Change” via the New York Times
• Planned Parenthood’s “All About Consent” and NYU students’ “Let’s Talk About Consent” videos
• The Aurora Center’s guide to supporting survivors
• The 5Ds of Bystander Intervention (Right To Be) – and also this guide to cop-free bystander intervention from Project NIA
• Toolkit: Engaging Men: Reducing Resistance and Building Support (Dr. Michael Flood)
• The Mask You Live In and Tough Guise (documentaries)
• The Rape Culture Pyramid image and commentary
• Zine: How Do We Build a Culture of Consent?

A Few of My Videos

Find all of my poems, including more on this topic, here. I’ve also written songs that are relevant here, including Dog People, Roguelike, and more.

I don’t want to make this resource hub all about me, but part of my work is facilitating programs and conversations on these issues. Get in touch here to explore bringing me to your college, conference, church, high school, or other community space.

A Few Poems By Others

• The Heart and the Fist: Rudy Francisco (and a more classroom-friendly version here)
• Masculinity So Fragile: FreeQuency
• Baby Brother: Javon Johnson
• I use my poetry to confront the violence against women: Elizabeth Acevedo
• Shrinking Women: Lily Myers
• Men in My Family: Jordan Bailey
• Times I’ve Been Mistaken for a Girl: Alex Dang
• Masculinity: Alex Luu & Jessica Romoff
• Sons: Terisa Siagatonu & Rudy Francisco
• Genderlect: Donte Collins
• My Masculinity: Sam Rush, Kwene, & Oompa of House Slam
• nayyirah waheed (from salt.)
• Playlist: Poems, Links, and Resources RE: The Connections Between Masculinity and Violence
• Playlist: Poems, Links, and Resources RE: #MeToo, Consent, and Rape Culture

A FEW BOOKS

• On Masculinity:
  • The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love: bell hooks
  • Man Up: Reimagining Modern Manhood: Carlos Andrés Gómez
  • The Man They Wanted Me to Be: Jared Yates Sexton
  • Boys & Sex: Peggy Orenstein (here’s a good excerpt)
  • No One Taught Me How to Be a Man: What a Trans Man’s Experience Reveals about Masculinity: Shannon T. L. Kearns
• On Rape Culture and Consent Culture
  • Know My Name: Chanel Miller
  • Not that Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture: ed. Roxane Gay
  • Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape: ed. Friedman and Valenti
  • Asking for It: The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture–and What We Can Do about It: Kate Harding
  • Queering Sexual Violence: Radical Voices from Within the Anti-Violence Movement (ed. Patterson)
  • The Hunting Ground: The Inside Story of Sexual Assault on American College Campuses (Documentary and Book)
  • The Beginning and End of Rape: Confronting Sexual Violence in Native America (Sarah Deer)
  • Ask: Building Consent Culture (ed. Stryker)
  • Not On My Watch: A Handbook for the Prevention of Sexual Violence (Isabella Rotman)
• And More
  • Feminism Is for Everybody: Passionate Politics: bell hooks
  • Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement (ed. Ejeris Dixon & Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha)
  • Fumbling Towards Repair: A Workbook for Community Accountability Facilitators (Mariame Kaba & Shira Hassan)

There is obviously a lot more out there. But I have found these links and resources to be useful in my work, and encourage others to make their own lists too.